10.07.2012

EASY

Dear Friends ~ Zoey here.  I've been telling the ZH we need to post some photos again, it has been a little while now.  She kind of moans and groans, and says "maybe ... maybe not".  I try to remind her though, that working on photos and posting here always helped her to smile ~ and she would say "with Zoolatry, I can live for a little while in my happy and imaginary world".  So ... when I reminded her what she would say, she said "OK".
I'm not sure I can get her to post every day, maybe just from time to time right now ... but she also told me that soon, she'll be ready to "make photo-art pictures once again for our friends" ... it's something she loves doing and she wants to return to it.  So, we'll see.
And we're trying to answer all the wonderful emails sent to us, the thoughtful comments here, the cards, the letters ~ but I've heard her say she can only do "a few a day", because it starts to make her sad.  So, if you've not heard from her, trust me, you will.
As for me and Maggy, we're OK.  Well, Maggy is more OK than me.  You see Poppy and I had a special relationship, just us.  Most days I'd sleep in his in-box, get cat fuzz all over his desk and computer ... but the in-box isn't the same now without him sitting behind his desk.  Every night we'd go together to the bathroom, and I would have my "fresh water dinky" from the sink.  The ZH keeps forgetting to do that for me.  Well, she did remember a couple times ~ but she left me there by myself ~ and it was like an hour or more before she remembered to come back and turn off the running water!  Then, of course, she was mad at herself for "running up the water bill". 
I've noticed lots of other things are different, too.  Lots of the time the house is too quiet.  And the ZH sometimes forgets to give us our evening treats ~ Poppy never forgot.  And, oh dear, I probably shouldn't mention this, but ... she forgets to tidy the litter boxes ... again, that was something Poppy did.  But you know what friends, me and Maggy forgive her right now, cause her mind and her heart are often somewhere else ... and we know, with time, it will be different once again.
I always used to sleep on their big-king bed, down by the footboard.  I didn't do that for awhile, it didn't seem quite right to me.   But I realized a few days ago that it was making the ZH sad, and so once again, I am on the bed at night, curled up at her feet.  I think she likes that ...



42 comments:

  1. All of you have gone through so much over the last few weeks and it will take some time to adjust. You are doing a very good job, Zoey so please keep it up.
    We send much love and purrs. :)
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  2. Good girl, Zoey. Sleeping there next to ZH will definitely make her feel better. Be patient and, I'm sure that, before long, the evening treats will always be there for you.

    Aloha
    IllanoyGal

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  3. It is difficult getting used to a "new normal". I think you guys are helping Ann so very much, just being there for her, showing her that your life has structure and that gives her purpose! xox

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  4. Your header makes me cry, Ann. It's beautiful, perfect. -Kim
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    Zoey, we're glad you're sleeping on the bed with ZH again. It *does* help, though the easing of grief takes so very long.

    Purrs and hugs.

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  5. I kinda think she wants both of you close. I kinda think that helps a lot. I kinda think you have to take care of her for Poppy Vic, now. You'll all make it through. Takes time to adjust to a new routine. But remember, you'll never forget what's in your hearts. And memories will soon make you smile and warm those sweet hearts of all of you, and take some of the sadness away.

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  6. That's the best you can do... curl up by her feet and keep her company. That's a wonderful thing to do. We are sending lots of purrrrrrrs and understand that it takes lots and lots of time to heal.....

    hugs to all of you from Max, Bugsy, Knuckles and HH.

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  7. I´m sure that soon will ZH remember to give you treats efurry evening and clean your litterbox :)
    Must be difficult to get use to a new "normal".

    XOXO

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  8. Zoey and Maggy, we are sure not much of anything is "easy" for the ZH right now. It will take time for her to adjust to life without Poppy Vic right there with her. But he will always be in her heart and she will heal. Just give her time and lots of love. We don't think any of us are in any rush for her to get back to doing for others. It really is long overdue time for her to take care of herself. Please give her lots and lots of extra loving and smoochies from all of us.

    Woos - Phantom, Thunder, Ciara, and Lightning, and especially Mom

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  9. Zoey, this is the time in life that we pets were MADE for. Comforting our humans is our most important job. Sending YOU comfort, too.

    -Bart and Ruby

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  10. It's so hard on everyone with Poppy Vic gone. You will all get on a new schedule. Just give it time. You are all in our thoughts and purrs. (((hugs)))

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  11. Zoey, you are going through so much adjustment right now. We think it's awesome you are back on the bed with ZH, giving her comfort. Our hearts are with you all. Maybe we can organize a sleep in at your place...all of us kitties can teleport over and pile up on the ZH... purr on her. We're good at that.

    xoxo Cory and family

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  12. Good girl Zoey for trying to help ZH with her sadness. We sure do send all of you big hugs and some mighty big head bumps. Joe, the donkey sends his best Hee haw too. We sure are thinking about all of you and like the Woos said, just give that Mom some time. She needs you two kitties right now. Take care.

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  13. You two kitties have a very important job to do - taking care of your mom. I remember my mother had to adjust to not having my father around and to remember to do the things he always did. He always took the house keys and we all got locked out of the house on the day of his funeral - Mom forgot the keys. We had to break in with all the guests standing outside waiting to get inside. I could hear my father chuckling from up in heaven. It takes time but you will adjust. Sending hugs and love.

    Cheri

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  14. This is a difficult time but Poppy Vic is watching from above and I'm sure he wants to see new pictures of you and Maggie and read what you're up to. TW isn't good at remembering to clean the litter box either. You girls make sure ZH eats and takes care of herself cos that's what's important.

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  15. Oh you poor baby. It's so hard when you favorite special person leaves. Just try to remember he loved you very much and one day you'll all meet again. HUG for ZH. We feel so bad for her too.

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  16. Zoey...just keep doin what you's doin. It will be you and Maggy who will help ZH the most! And all the rest of us are here as backup. We love you guys.

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  17. Mum sends her love to your Mom, and we both send love to you Zoey and to Maggie too. We're so happy that you are snuggling in bed together with your Mom - it makes all the difference.
    Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx

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  18. You must be the boss in the family, judging from this photo. I am your new blog pal. Take your time, time heals every wound. You have our moral support!!

    Sankissjuice

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  19. TBT says that time, attention, and activities will help yer ZH, Maggy and Zoey. You both need ta give her attention, and remind her of the new things she needs ta remember ta do. And we continue ta purr fer all of you...

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  20. Slowly...slowly. We are simply happy to see a post.

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  21. You kittehz and the ZH really need each other right now. So glad to hear you are back on the bed, Zoey. Tell the ZH we're keepin her close in our hearts. XOXOXO

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  22. We miss you all, but we understand! I'm so glad you're sleeping on the bed again, that's so sweet.

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  23. We hope you, Maggy and your Mom are all loving on each other.

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  24. We are so glad you girls have each other. All of you are in our hearts and purrs.

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  25. Oh continued purrs and thoughts. This is a very hard time for all of you.

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  26. We understand, Zoey. You miss your special Poppy and things just aren't the same. But we know you and Maggie are helping each other and the ZH to cope with the changes. We send more {{{hugs}}}, purrs and pawhugs.

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  27. Sending all our love to you! We are happy to see you are posting. Lots of love,
    Sherlock Ash and Traveler

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  28. We're happy to hear everyone is starting to find ways to adjust. Purrs and hugs to you all!

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  29. Sweetie, everything is different but you know you and Maggy can help make the ZH feel a bit better. Life is cruel sometimes and it takes the love of family and friends to help make it better. We love you.

    Love,
    the Florida Furkids

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  30. Ann, we love you and all your furrends are here waiting for you when you are up to it! xxoo

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  31. We is so happy to hears from yous! Sometimes peoples has to takes baby steps when they is doing things differently.
    Kisses
    We await your return
    Nellie

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  32. Just take your time healing. We're here for you anytime you need us and we'll be here when you're ready to post again. We're purring for all of you as you grieve over the loss of Poppy Vic.

    We love you.

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  33. We are glad to hear from you all. It is okay to have the sads, you have gone through a lot. Your world has changed a lot and will continue to. When it is time for the sads to leave sweet and precious memories will take their place. We are so glad the three of you have each other to help go through all the changes ahead of you. We will all be here when you are ready to be. Hugs and nose kisses...we are keeping you in our prayers.

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  34. Hi Zoey and Maggy...we are very glad that you have posted and let us know how you are doing. We think it is a very good idea that you two both sleep on the bed...cuddles all around makes everybody feel better. Please tell your mom that we are sending love and hugs and blessings to her. xoxo Jeanne, Chloe and LadyBug

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  35. Waves paw to Zoey and Maggy...and sending gentle paw pats to ZH. Take all the time you need. Thank you for this post, it ,eans lots to all,of us to know how you are moving forward. And you are...one paw at a time, be well Savannah

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  36. We are sending you so much love ~ there are so many changes to get used to, to adjust to ~ and grieving to do too. Just remember we all love you and are there for you in any way we can be. xx

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  37. Zoey, for humans, creativity is a balm to the soul, but sometimes the light goes out and it can only come back on by itself. Our best to ZH while she wanders for a while in the darkness, but when her light comes back on, well, she'll at least be more herself. For now, it's up to you and Maggie to carry the flame.

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  38. I glad u rest on ur hoomin's foots. That is good for them. :)

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  39. Zoey & Maggy
    we know that for some time things may be a bit strange for you both of you. But ZH is having to make adjustments and needs your help. Give her lots of healing purrs of comfort and love, be gentle.

    ((hugs))
    purrs
    >^,,^<
    ✿•*¨`*•. ♥Abby♥Boo♥Ping♥Jinx♥Grace♥✿•*¨`*•.

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  40. Good job, Zoey. That is wonderful of you to be so understanding and comforting to your human. We think of each of you all the time, and send much love, purrs and prayers.

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  41. Keep up the cuddling and purring Zoey; your mum needs you as much as you need her.

    If that water keeps running, please call Au because he LOVES running water!

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  42. We are sending you so many
    love & prayers. You've had such tragedy, only time will help we imagine.

    I know Ann is so lucky to have both of you.

    Hugs & love,
    Oskar & Pam

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